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Blindsided

by Kim Ades March 17, 2014

Winter in Canada.

Snow.

Snow.

Snow.

And more snow.

It never ends.

That’s just the way it goes.

Of course, we weren’t the only ones hit with wild snow storms this year, but in Canada, it really just represents a way of life for at least 5 months out of the year. Every year.

One day last week, I was driving my daughter, Ferne, to her sewing class. At one point along my route, I came to a stop, and witnessed a van on the other side of the street heading my way. The van seemed to be going a little faster than the speed limit and it came to an abrupt stop at the stop sign.

snow on cars

Whoosh – all of a sudden, the snow that was sitting on the roof of the van came tumbling over the front windshield to cover it entirely. The driver and passengers were blindsided. They couldn’t see out of their front window – it was completely snowed over. The snow was so heavy that the wipers could barely move. They were stuck, and a line-up of cars was forming behind them.

I turned to Ferne and started teaching her lessons…

In the back of my mind, I began forming the introduction to this article… thinking about how the snow on the top of one’s car represents all of the hidden beliefs that one carries around without any awareness. Even though the windows of the van were clear, the passengers were still at risk – this is similar to so many of my clients who go merrily along their way until a crisis or some kind of adversity blindsides them.”It’s very important to always wipe down your car before driving. You see what can happen? That can cause a very severe accident.”

Often, when hardship strikes, they spin out of control and all kinds of anxiety, worry, and concern invade their thoughts. Really, if all they did was clean off their roofs regularly, the snow wouldn’t accumulate and cause such a gigantic and harsh blindside. What I am trying to say is that if people take the time to clean up their beliefs and their thinking on a regular basis, then adversity won’t be as hard to handle.

“What a brilliant article,” I thought.

A couple of minutes after I dropped off Ferne at her class, I headed home.

I accelerated, perhaps a little bit above the speed limit.

I noticed a stop sign and came to an abrupt stop.

Then I realized the key difference. I recovered from being blindsided with relative speed and agility because the snow on my windshield was not thick and debilitating. It did not stop me in my tracks and cause a traffic jam. It was fairly easy to manage and that is a result of usually keeping my roof clean.Whoosh – the snow from my roof came tumbling over my front windshield. For a quick moment, I had trouble seeing but I quickly used my windshield wipers to get rid of the snow. It was a relatively light accumulation. At first I thought, “Damn – now what? My article no longer makes any sense. How can I write an article about cleaning off your roof, when my own roof was covered in snow?”

So… here’s the key – we will all experience being blindsided at one point or another, just like we will all experience some kind of adversity throughout our lifetimes. That’s not something we can control. However, our ability to bounce back from the experience highly influences the fluidity of our ride, or rather, the longevity of our success. Our speed of recovery determines the amount of time we will be stuck in traffic or breezing through the streets with a clear view ahead.

The question really is – are there areas in your life where you could benefit from doing a little roof cleaning of your own?

 

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