Client Spotlight With Becca Buttermore
What are the top three things you have learned or would like to learn from coaching? What scares you the most about being coached? We ask. You answer.
Over the next few months, we will be highlighting several Frame of Mind Coaching clients in our newsletters, delving into clients’ reasons for pursuing coaching, their takeaways from coaching, and what surprised them about the process.
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Why Becca sought out coaching with Frame of Mind Coaching:
I felt like I had gotten stuck. I knew where I wanted to be and I knew where I was. I wanted someone to help me close the gap. There seemed to be a huge disconnect between what was in my head and what I was communicating to people. I felt like effective communication was a stumbling block for me, both professionally and personally. While pursuing the idea of coaching, I interviewed five different coaches who I was matched with on a coaching website. I chose Kim.
I will never forget the first time I spoke with Kim. Towards the end of our conversation I said, “I think I have a communication problem and I want somebody to help me work on it.” Kim paused for a moment, then replied, “What if I said to you I don’t think you have a communication problem; You have a thinking problem.” My immediate thought was, “No way! I know communication is a problem for me.” Yet Kim spoke with such passion and conviction, I knew I needed to take the opportunity to find out what she meant.
What was surprising about coaching?
Before starting coaching, I was a little anxious about how hard it would be to fit into my already busy schedule and to complete the 10 weeks successfully. Looking back, I can say it’s not hard; Not being coached and remaining stuck is hard!
What Becca learned from coaching:
-The number one thing I came away with is that I’m 100% responsible for my own happiness. Before coaching, I put a lot of effort into trying to make everyone else in my world happy and thinking that this would create my happiness. Kim explained that I was thinking about it all backwards. I now know that the greatest gift I can give others is my own happiness.
-I come to the table with a much different perspective than I used to. I feel like my ability to relate to and understand people has improved dramatically, largely because I understand myself better now. I realize that I am not victim to my circumstances anymore. Even in the face of chaos, I can have control over my thoughts and emotions and that directly affects the results I see. Finding peace amidst chaos is awesome!
-Through the coaching process I have come to realize how close we are to everything that we really want and need. We just have to open our hearts and minds to realize that it’s there.
-My greatest pride and success comes from seeing my three boys, aged 3, 8 and 10, confident and happy in their worlds. It has been amazing to share some of the Frame of Mind concepts with them and to watch them apply them in their own experiences.
How did journaling affect your coaching experience?
The insight client journaling provides is phenomenal. It allowed Kim and me to form an incredible relationship. Kim received constant input about who I am and how I work, which allowed her to come to the table more prepared. I don’t think most people understand how much they miss out on by relying solely on one or two contacts with their coach each week.
How does journaling affect your life?
Journaling has been a great outlet for me. It helps me set my thoughts down, preventing them from taking up more air-time than they deserve. It helps me reflect on experiences I encounter. It also allows me to remember many of life’s little moments that are so very special and significant, but are at risk of being lost or forgotten as life continues to move at warp speed.
Why have you decided to pursue Frame of Mind Coaching Certification?
During one of our coaching calls, Kim and I were talking about my values and what I was looking for in life. She asked, “Have you ever thought about coaching?” Until then, I hadn’t. However, I live in a house of all boys, so as you can imagine, we eat, sleep and breathe sports activities. We do coaching for hitting, coaching for pitching, coaching for speed and agility, coaching for this and coaching for that. I really get the value in having a PHENOMENAL coach. Looking back, I realize that I have always been interested in helping other people see and believe in the gifts that they have. Having a coach in life and having learned how to apply the Frame Of Mind principles to my own experiences has been invaluable to me.