Client Spotlight with David Smith
Today’s Client Spotlight: David Smith
Career: Engineering Specialist at Siemens Industry
Coaching period: 10 weeks of 1-1 coaching, plus follow-up alignment coaching with Coach Carla
Why did you seek out coaching with Frame of Mind Coaching?
I was going through so much at the time and I was feeling a lot of insecurity in many areas of my life. I was already two years past a divorce, and felt I was investing too much of my energy into a new relationship. I was anxious about my care-giving responsibilities with regard to my dad. I was in transition in so many ways, and I felt like I wasn’t moving forward. I knew it would be helpful to have someone help me dismantle my thoughts, because I needed clarity to move forward in my life. I had been dating someone who was getting results from Frame of Mind Coaching, and also heard great things about FOM from a successful entrepreneur. I looked into FOM and interviewed the coaches, then chose Carla to be my coach.
What did you learn from coaching?
-I used to doubt myself a lot. People would say, “You’re good at that” and I’d say “Ya whatever.” Going through coaching was a confidence builder. I had a stock pile of things that I felt were always a challenge for me to believe, and I believe them now.
-One Frame of Mind Coaching principal that stood out to me was: You can’t change other people, but you do have the power to choose how you respond to other people, and to choose if you want to get mad or sad or upset. Now, I’m quicker to get back to ground zero and realize I am in control of my own self. That is something that I live by on a daily basis.
-I am much more confident in myself and in my choices. Carla helped me collect a lot of evidence that helped me be more secure with who I am. When I continued my relationship, I didn’t let it create insecurities in me. The evidence that surfaced helped me get a promotion and sort out my role as a care-giving manager for my father.
-I learned how to respect myself more. I realized I was often accommodating everyone else, without looking after myself. I was what they call a pleaser; I was always out there pleasing people. Carla helped me recognize that I had to respect myself and that I didn’t have to be insecure. I am also more mindful when I make assumptions and jump to conclusions. I don’t make as many assumptions as I used to. I put a buffer in there before I react to things.
What advice would you give others about coaching?
When it comes to coaching, you get out of it what you put into it. You have to step up to the plate and make yourself vulnerable. You need to say the things you would typically deny in a conversation with someone.
I can’t say enough good things about my coaching experience. The other day I sent Carla an e-mail telling her that I felt she was family because she knows so much about me. Hopefully some day we can cross paths with one another.