How can you trust your parents again after they hide a massive secret? How do you know when there are no more lies?
Welcome to a new season of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast! And what's the best way to kick off Season 3? That's right, with an episode of Fridays with Ferne!
Today, Ferne and I explore a case about a young woman named Chris who lived her whole life as an only child. Then one day, she finds out that she has an older brother and that her father had this child when he was 18. Chris feels angry and betrayed. Why would her parents hide her own brother from her? Why are they still being secretive about it? Chris doesn’t know how to build a relationship with her parents when she feels like she can’t trust them.
I suggest that Chris tries to have compassion for her parents and tries to understand why her father never shared this part of his life with her. It is unlikely that hiding her brother came from a bad place. Her father probably only wanted her to see the good side of him, not the parts that he may be embarrassed about. The goal for Chris is to come to a place of understanding so that she doesn’t feel so betrayed.
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